When a person who is not your “spec” or “type” finds their way into your space, and is always emotionally, physically, mentally, and financially available for you; you’ll realize that there is a difference between needs and wants.

Spec here and there, everybody has “specs”; but what really is a “spec”?
Someone would tell a guy or girl: “You are not my type.”
Mind you, anybody has the right to tell you this – of course, we have freedom of choice and speech; but please, there is what you should understand.

I think (it is my opinion, of course) it is better to say “I am not interested, because…..” than to say “You are not my type”. I feel it sounds too raw or harsh.
I also think some people push too much that one is forced to bluntly tell them: “You are not my type”.
I am just saying, because, frankly, it is none of my business. But, I want you to know this fact; you may not end up with your ideal (or what you regard as ideal) “spec” or “type”, and you are free to doubt or argue, but that is the unpleasant truth.
I am not writing this for kids, I am writing this for people who are ready to face reality. Don’t misquote me, please; I didn’t say you cannot end up with your spec, but it is not always the case.
This is why there are so many people now pressurized to be in a relationship or get married to anyone available for them – because they wasted time waiting for their ideal spec.

Oh, I didn’t say it is wrong to have expectations or desire what you feel you want; I am only making it clear to you that even God sometimes give us what we need and not what we want, that is why some of our prayers will not be answered. Because God wants to give us better, the best.

You may end up with a dark person, even when you initially wanted a fair person. You may eventually get married to A instead of the B you wanted. Maybe you wanted your church member, but love finds you at your job.
True love happens unexpectedly, it strikes suddenly, that is why you “fall in love”, you don’t jump into it.
This thing called love beats our imagination, anything can happen.

I reiterate, I never said you can’t get what or who you want, but I want you to start being realistic about your potential partner.
I am also telling you to be intentional about what you want, yes; I am not contradicting myself, I just want you to know that you can still have what you want.

I really hope you understand.