I was about calling Idara when her call came in…ah ah! Okay.
Like I always do, I allowed the phone to ring, it did; twice, as usual.
Then I checked my account balance afterwards (I didn’t want to hear stories that touch the heart, the body, and soul) to confirm I had enough airtime to call the “Love Of My Life”…okay, I had enough to last for an hour, at least!
Her voice makes me smile uncontrollably, the sweetness of her voice reverberates through my head, and the warmth from her words fills my heart with joy.
You see? I’m in for a good time, I wouldn’t allow insufficient airtime kill my joy, nah!
By this time, I had to rush into the kitchen to grab myself lunch, and boom! My reminder came on! I had an online meeting with some clients.
Oh! Must it be now? I forgot I had a meeting sef, love wan burst my brain!!
Okay, let me just text my baby to tell her I would soon get busy (I had about 10 minutes to go), and she could come over later, if she was not too busy at her end; it was a weekend, afterall.
I was about typing the message, her text came in! Oh, does this girl know I’m about sending a text message to her?
Of course, it was sweet coincidence. What a perfect timing!!
“Good afternoon, baby! How are you? Are you sure you don’t have any meeting today? I’m coming over later. I have plenty gists for you. Have a great day! I love you!!”
Whoa!! What a motivation!
Three (3) minutes to my online meeting. Let’s do this!
The meeting went well; I had already gotten extra motivation (the call from Idara) prior to it…what did you expect?
4 HOURS LATER…
The door bell rang, behold, my baby is here!!
I cooked already, everyone knows I cook. So, babe just came to literally add the feminine spice to the house of an unmarried brother.
She loaded me with stories, like she earlier promised; in case you don’t know, she always keeps her word.
It was just 3 weeks to our wedding, and everything just dey excite us…married people can relate, they understand this feeling.
N/B: Idara and I never had sex before our wedding day, and we didn’t even kiss.
We hugged a lot, though..
But God gave us the grace to abstain from sex and every other form of sexual relation or anything that could cause sexual arousal.
I even asked her to always be on her cardigan or hoodie if possible whenever we are in the same room; you can’t come and make a son of man to be moved because of the things he sees before him.
In case you are wondering, she actually had a special room whenever occasion demands her presence, so we couldn’t even imagine sleeping on the same bed.
I would not want to make a daughter of Zion sin; a chorister, a prayer band member, a youth facilitator, a holy daughter of Zion.
No nau!
We prayerfully had to tread with care.
The Holy Spirit helped us!
“Baby, what did God really say about premarital sex?” She asked.
Me: 
“Ehm, I don’t understand. It isn’t right and you know.
Why now?”
Idara: “I know, baby; but, let’s discuss it, pleeeeeeeeeaaaaaaase.”
Me: “Okay, Ma’am! But, I am not in the mood for this Bible study.”
Idara (feeling like she won a debate): “That’s my baby! Let’s do this!” She brought out her iPad before I could say “Jack is a good boy!”
Me: “Hmm!”
Idara (smiling): “I’m waiting.”
So, for peace to reign, I dug out some Bible passages, and we discussed at length.
SUMMARY
Sex is beautiful, sex is sweet, sex was created by God, it is a gift from God to man (yes na, and woman).
Adam had the mandate to name animals, take care of the first habitat of the world, and was divinely hooked up by God to coexist with a woman, the first woman: his wife…a union designed and blessed by God!
Adam also had the divine authority to command, say things and they stand; remember, he was the first original copy of GOD’s IMAGE.
Man shall leave his father and mother, and become one with his wife…(Gen. 2:24).
Becoming one is spiritual; There is what is called SOUL TIES, and this is confirmed in the Bible.
I don’t want to write out too many Bible passages here, but, 1 Cor. 6:15: “(Even) when a man joins himself with a prostitute, he becomes ONE flesh with her…” confirms what Gen. 2:24 says.
Before we look at it biologically, note this;
You will not die if you sleep with a person you are not married to, even if it is a prostitute; BUT, like Paul said in 1 Cor. 6:12, and 10:23;
You are free to have sex anyhow, but, how far? Does it have an implication? Would it go well?
Let me take time to write these two passages out:
1. 1 Cor. 6:12;
“Everything is permissible (allowable and lawful) for me, but, not all things are helpful (good for me to do, expedient, and profitable when considered with other things…”
2. Paul later said in 1 Cor. 10:23
(I really love this one);
“All things are legitimate (permissible, and we are free to do anything we please), but, not all things are helpful (expedient, profitable, and wholesome).
All things are legitimate, but not all things are constructive (to character), and edifying (to SPIRITUAL LIFE).
You see?
Sex creates an emotional bond between the parties involved. Sex is tridimensional, it affects the body, soul, and spirit.
Let’s now go biological:
Dr. Daniel Amen, in his book, “Change Your Brain, Change Your Life”, he wrote: “Whenever a person is sexually involved with another person, neurochemical changes occur in both their brains that encourage limbic, emotional bonding.”
EXTRA: The limbic system is a set of structures in the brain that deal with emotions and memory.
So, do you want to ‘give it’ to that fine boy tonight?
Do you want to chop that babe when she comes over?
Rethink! Are you ready for the ripple effect?
Okay, you want to marry her. Oh! You want to marry him.
Wait small na, until you both get married. Then you can devour yourselves all you want.
Ehm, I didn’t say you should get married just because you want to have sex, no! That’s not my handwriting.
Just be attentive, let the Holy Spirit guide you.
When you get married, and you have nothing to worry about, you have him all to yourself, you have her all to yourself…that is when you would have THE SWEETEST SEX.
I think I have said enough.
Where was I?
Okay, that is how babe and I ended up having a Bible study session that I did not plan for.
But, it was worth the time.