Two people cannot be in a relationship if there is no agreement. To agree is to assent; to assent is to say yes (Let’s go; Let’s do this; Alright, I’m in!).
Lack of effective/complete communication has destroyed a lot of relationships and marriages.
*If you want to be in a relationship with her, you let her know.
*If you like him, too, and agree to make the relationship happen; you let him know.
*When you propose, there must be complete communication (this is what every relationship needs).
You ask, she hears and understands, and then says yes – sending, receiving, feedback. This means, communication plays a great role in building a relationship.
Also, when you eventually get into the relationship/marriage;
*If the alarm is too loud, and disturbs you whenever it rings; let him know.
*If you don’t like too much pepper in your food, let her know.
*If you like black coffee, without cream, let me know.
*If I love the way you wake me every morning, I should let you know.
This means, (effective and complete) communication keeps a relationship going.
According to The New Lexicon Webster’s Dictionary of The English Language (Encyclopedic Edition), communication is a sending, giving or exchanging of information, ideas, etc.).
You give your thoughts, ideas, opinions, etc.
You express your feelings to a person, and the person RESPONDS (in words or actions) – that is communication!!
A complete communication happens when one sends, the other receives, and then gives feedback. THAT IS WHAT EVERY RELATIONSHIP NEEDS!
When you start feeling that your partner SHOULD know what you like, when you have not told him/her, you have not ensured CLARITY; you begin killing yourself slowly and silently, and you start damaging the relationship.
People (even identical twins) are different, and being compatible does not, cannot, and will never make you THE SAME. You have likes and dislikes, everyone has what they like and dislike, too.
Maybe you don’t like the way she does this, and you don’t like the way he does that…just TALK to her/him.
There is always room for adjustment, and you must adjust to accommodate your partner.
And to adjust, to accommodate your partner, you must let them know what you like, dislike, want, plan; and you must listen to theirs, too, if the relationship must work.
You need communication!!
You want to get married, but you are still procrastinating; please, go talk to her.
Let’s not stereotype this, go talk to him.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with a lady asking a gentleman for a relationship or friendship.
Tell him you are interested or you are not interested.
Stop keeping her on hold; stop keeping him on hold.
Just so you know, he may start noticing one very beautiful sister out there already.
She could even be giving him attention and good vibes.
She might meet a prince charming that would sweep her off her feet, even sooner than you could think.
So, it would really hurt you to see someone you really care about being taken by another person right before you…because you failed to communicate your feelings and your plans to her.
If you are interested, let them know. If you are not, allow them to go somewhere else. Avoid unnecessary delay, feelings change.
Always remember that there is no healthy relationship (starting it and keeping it) without effective and complete communication.
Am I communicating?