Many years ago, I chose and determined to remain celibate until marriage, it is not the easiest kind of life to live, but God always helps me.

People have told me that the things I post here are mostly “easier said than done”, and I tell them I am living it, there are so many other people who are living it, and that means it is not impossible for many more people reading my posts to practice and live it as well.

I know there are a lot of hypocrites in the world, especially on social media today; so many of them have made you start doubting and even stop believing the truth, but come to think of it, why would someone’s or some people’s misbehaviour and hypocrisy make you stop doing the right thing(s)?

Well, trust me, there are still people who practice what they preach, and there are more than a billion (very) good and morally upright people all over the world today.

Even at that, they should not be the yardstick for measuring morality and Christianity – because so many more people are still going to disappoint you!

Look up to Jesus Christ!

Remember your value system from home, remember that there is black and there is white, remember that there is moral and immoral, remember that there is good and evil, then choose what you know (not what you feel like) is right, because at the end of the day, it is a matter of choice; neither God nor evil forces will choose for you.

You don’t purposely mess up and blame the devil. The devil did not ask you to always allow a girl in your room late in the night; don’t you know you are a sexual being? Your bodies will always move! Nigerians would say: “Body no be firewood”.

You can’t be allowing sexual stimulation and relations from a guy or a lady, and expect not to be sexually turned on. Are you playing? If you are, then you must be unwise enough to be playing with fire.

Especially those ladies that claim the brother is “nice” and “godly”, so nothing can happen.

And those brothers that claim the sister is on fire…okay!!

So you have to be with her in her vulnerable state and expect her or you to remain as non-living things. You’ll be shocked! It may not be planned, but our bodies always respond to any form of stimulation, especially sexual stimulation!!

The most common victims are campus fellowship members, youth fellowship members, instrumentalists, and choristers (here is where you have music ministers).

These ones are the ones topping the list.

Even with the speaking in tongues, if they are naive enough to allow you in and be with you in a compromising time of the day, in a compromising situation, and in a compromising position; they would make something happen directly or indirectly, intentionally or unintentionally (there is a point of sexual arousal you get to that is almost impossible to go back – there is no going back!)

I have been there more than say seven or eight times, excluding the situations where some ladies have directly asked me to have sex with them, that they’d give me any style I desire and more.

Only God and my vow to Him have helped me so far; because, in some special occasions, even your “determination” to remain sexually pure or celibate would fly away through the nearest exit.

Yes, it can be that crazy!

So what do you do?

When you see sexual immorality, sexual temptation, sexual sin, or anything that looks like it on road A, quickly change direction and use road B. It comes very fast, without you thinking.

That’s the only way you can win this battle, trust me.

I’m emphasizing on sexual sin because that’s what the post is really about.

You can’t win this by depending on your might, your power, or even your “anointing”.

Someone told me that some people’s sexual urge, desire, or libido is way stronger than others.

Of course, I know that; I perfectly understand that because I am that “some people”; it is crazy, but I am doing quite fine, so can you…if you want.

• You are looking for the latest leaked sex tape of a celebrity, what do you want to do with it? Do you want to score it?

• You are always asking for movies or series with the most, wildest, and most realistic sex scenes, for what exactly? Is that even normal?

• You know all the pornstars, the best young ones, the best older ones, the best black, latino, white, and even their production companies.

• You know different telegram and WhatsApp porn groups and those with different 18+ (they call it “adult”) contents, etc. And you think you’d remain normal?

No, sir/ma’am!

When you open your eyes and ears by watching the aforementioned, the spirit of lust and sexual immorality gradually weakens your spiritual defenses; it doesn’t matter who you are and it doesn’t which position you occupy in church/fellowship.

It doesn’t matter your level of anointing, you you open yourself to these things, they’d gradually weaken until you are totally defenseless.

You should know that the devil and demons are patient enough for any task they have. Well, I don’t want to go spiritual with this post.

I am not telling you it is easy, it is not.

It is a battle, it is hard, but with God, all things are possible.

Your determination, decision, choice, and vow need His grace.

The good news is, His grace is always sufficient.

Let me stop here by telling you these:

* It’s been 20 years (since 2003) I purposely made a vow to God to remain celibate until marriage; He’s always faithful. I have come extremely close to breaking it, but, it never happened. Glory to God!

* I, Ny, am being helped by God daily; I can’t do it without Him. Every believer lives by His grace on daily basis.

* You can be morally upright and sexually pure if you really want, it’s mainly about discipline and self-control, then backed up by the grace of God, and guaranteed by the leadership of the Holy Spirit; because there are things, activities, people, and places you need to avoid if you really want to be sexually moral, and the Holy Spirit has a very important and necessary part to play in guiding you.

* Humanly speaking, it is extremely difficult and almost impossible. But, God’s grace fuels our discipline, self-control, and determination to be sexually moral.

* God sees clearly and knows what you do in secret; so, do not be a hypocrite.

Actually, nobody may know who you truly are.

Nobody will beat you.

But, somehow, the truth always prevails. But, even if it doesn’t; it is good, better, and best to be good.

I really hope you understand.

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Merely being a virgin or celibate doesn’t automatically mean one is practicing sexual purity.

In fact, so many virgins are not sexually pure, because they (the ones I am talking about) have done a lot of “sexual things” apart from having actual penile-vaginal intercourse – SEXUAL INTERCOURSE.

As far as you have never had sex, you are a virgin; but as long as (if) you are making out, sucking, licking, fondling, giving head, being eaten out, kissing, cuddling, grinding (giver/receiver), dry humping, giving/being given lap dance, watching sex tapes, watching porn, touching a person (your girlfriend, boyfriend, fiancé, fiancée, or anybody at all) in a sexual way or giving consent to be touched in a sexual way, masturbating, and/or doing anything that can cause sexual arousal to yourself or another person; you are sexually impure.

It is not easy to practice, right?

The Lord is your strength.

But the Lord will not be your strength if you are not seriously intentional about being sexually pure.

When you are really ready, God will give you the grace to practice it.

It starts from your decision.

I hope you understand.

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Amara is from a good Christian home; she is what you people call “fire-branded”.

She is a genuine child of God, a born again Christian; I am not talking about a pretender.

But something terrible happened, she gets lured when she got into school; she started clubbing, she started partying hard, and she became sexually loose.

She became so sexually active: perversive, a stripper and an escort (an elite escort).

Why? Because she was influenced by evil association!

Few weeks from now will be Valentine’s day, and so many singles are desperately open to relationship proposals.

You see every nice person as a potential partner; small “hi”, you are already fantasizing being on a romantic date and cuddled up.

What if that your crush or that sweet-looking is demon-possessed, oppressed, or has a demonic connection/covering?

Yes, you like that babe/guy, but have you even tried to be prayerful about any possible “thing” that could happen between you two?

Have you handed that feeling of yours into God’s hands?

Have you said: “Dear Lord, this babe is hot oh! What do you think? Is she good for me? Am I good for her? Should I pursue?”

Know this today, if you get involved with or associate romantically with someone who has a demonic connection or link, you’d certainly attract that spirit.

This is not religious, this is reality (that has and will always elude most people).

You start seeing it like a mere “copying”, “giving same energy”, or “doing it the way it is done”, but it is way deeper and more serious than that.

Samson fell and became vulnerable.

Solomon of all people, the wisest man to ever live also fell and became vulnerable; he became weak and a prey.

They associated with evil women (partners); emphasis on partners.

No matter how “fire-branded” you think you are, it would be foolish for you to go to a strip club.

You can never go there, spend time there, and come back without “fighting spiritually” with the spirits in that environment.

In fact, you’d be affected to an extent, until you leave there…even when you are gone from there, you’d still be in a spiritual battle with the spirits you encountered there.

Remember, 1 Cor. 15: 33-34″ Do not be so deceived and misled! Evil companionships (communion, associations) corrupt and deprave good manners and morals and character…” Complete it (go and read it).

Also, 2 Cor. 6:14-18: “Be ye not unequally yokef together with unbelievers…”

Complete it yourself.

There are people who are not covered or afflicted by demons, but are still not good for you at all, because you have different spirits (spirit has different meanings), attitudes, desires, visions, and values.

You do not need to be “friends” with every person you find attractive.

You don’t have to be in a relationship with everybody; no matter how friendly, sweet, caring they seem or actually are.

Be picky, be selective, be prayerful, be spiritually attentive, be polite, and be careful.

If you are single, don’t be too desperate, lest you fall victim of evil association/companionship.

There are a lot of ladies and men who can quote the scriptures fluently, but are scam, fraud, and fake.

I pray that the eyes of your understanding be enlightened!

There are things you really can’t control…

You can never control how tied your soul is to another person’s after having sex with them.

It is called soul ties.

This is the main reason a person would leave their spouse for their ex or former sex partner.

This is why people still strongly desire their previous sexual partners.

You enjoy the sex, but your souls are tied spiritually (whether you believe it or not).

This is why you should not sleep around; everybody has a spirit, covenant, spiritual covering (divine or demonic), etc.

This is called transference of spirits.

Everybody you have sex with gets a part of your spiritual components, you also get a part of theirs.

When there is sexual intercourse or sexual relation, there is an exchange of spiritual traits, and there is an establishment of spiritual and emotional bond.

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* If you are directed to sit on a particular seat by the ushers, please respect yourself and their office. Don’t imagine their ages, we know you have their type at home, but at that point, just obey.

Don’t Begin service with disobedience.

* The fact that I go to church with Bible app on my iPad or phone doesn’t make the person with a hardcopy of the Bible holier.

They are both 100% effective.

Times are changing; the WORD used to be on stones, then on scrolls.

* To the ushers in particular, if an adult is using his/her phone in church, as long as he/she is not disturbing or distracting anybody, and most times, you don’t even know what the person is doing with it; please, don’t embarrass him/her. Let them be.

Maybe it is business or emergency.

Who knows?

I am not saying there should not be corrections or adherence to rules in church; but let it not be assumed and concluded that phones are just sources of distraction in church, that is wrong!

As for those who use their phones and iPads in church, please try not to be a distraction/disturbance. You have sense, use it.

The point is, train kids well to know that they need to be attentive and coordinated in church/service, so they would be “well-behaved” in church when they get older, even when using gadgets.

This Kingdom race is personal, people should know the right thing to do, and the right time.

* During praise and worship, don’t force anyone to stand up; you don’t know how they feel or what they are experiencing at the moment.

People should understand the essence of standing during praise/worship.

If you are leading, gently remind them to be on their feet, most people must certainly oblige.

Unless you are leading in your house, and you have kids, you are free to enforce it while explaining to them, in order to make them grow with that understanding.

* It is not by force to come to your church.

We are supposed to preach the same gospel and promote/represent the same Kingdom.

We shouldn’t be trying to compete with ourselves.

If you go for evangelism, and you meet someone worshipping with another denomination, encourage him/her to genuinely know God for real.

Don’t ask the person to leave his/her church for yours, it is wrong!

I had one funny and sad experience where some members of a particular fellowship stopped talking to me, because I told them I worship with another denomination, and would not be attending their fellowship again.

Some people too dey do.

* Be careful not to end up worshipping “men and women of God”.

They are here to encourage and help us in the way of the Lord, and also understand things more.

They are our spiritual leaders/heads, but they are not God.

Know their limits, and have boundaries.

* The fact that your pastor doesn’t like a thing doesn’t make it a sin, and he/she liking a thing doesn’t make it the best.

* Don’t leave your church because you feel people are annoying there, the truth is, everyone is annoying, in a way or another, knowingly or unknowingly.

Only leave when you are sure that they are clearly hindering your growth or making you sin.

If you are paid in millions every month end, I bet you would condone annoying colleagues.

* As a man, acknowledge and respect boundaries when relating with your Mommy/Mama in church or fellowship.

As a woman, do same when relating with your Daddy/Papa in church/fellowship.

These people are human beings too; don’t be an agent of darkness.

* The doctrines of your church are man-made, yes, it might have been inspired by the Holy Spirit, but most times, it is according to the founding fathers’ understanding of the scriptures.

So, calm down with the way you condemn other people’s doctrines and styles, it is the way they understand the gospel, too.

But my God is not a God of confusion, so a lot of things (in different denominations) are always similar, unless they are totally carnally inspired.

Environments and neighbourhoods where denominations started could also play a part in the way their styles are.

* Nobody’s testimony is unnecessary or irrelevant, every single thing is worth thanking God for.

Unless, they want to give the testimony at a time meant for another activity…then it can wait.

* Know the word for yourself, try to have a spiritual filter in you.

Don’t just take in everything you hear or read.

Pastors, men or women of God are human beings; sometimes, they may say what they understand/know, and that may not be completely right, it may only be contextually right.

Don’t misunderstand me, they are God-sent, they speak what they hear/receive from the Holy Spirit, but AT TIMES, they may say what they think is right, and this may not be always/very correct.

* Instrumentalists should be mindful of what they play in church.

You people should fear God nau.

* When you specifically asked to pray for for abcd, don’t go and do “I Too Know” by praying for abcd+efghijklm, etc.

Tah! Which spirit is directing you? A disobedient spirit, abi? Oya na, control it.

Follow instructions; our God is a God of order.

May the Holy Spirit help us to understand these things and more.

Shalom!

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Some say they want a good guy with “a touch of bad boy”.

So many Christians say they want a God-fearing husband or wife that is “bad” in the bedroom.

The question now is, what do you mean by “bad”?

Someone that would do “naughty” stuff to you in the bedroom, right?

Let me simplify it; you’re implying that you want light with a touch of darkness.

How possible is that? Impossible!

It is either light or darkness; a demon can pretend to be good, that doesn’t make the demon good.

…

A lot of people carry (or plan to carry) lustful fantasies (LUST) into marriage.

You want him/her to do you like some pornstar, actor, a former sex partner, or person you saw (probably) when you were in the world, and you want to replicate that/bring those fantasies to reality when you “have the opportunity” (get married).

Sometimes, it is not wrong to do it, the action may not necessarily be sinful, but the motive/the thought behind it makes it “lust”. (sin).

This becomes self-seeking, instead of the dutiful, beautiful, and genuine love-sharing lovemaking that is supposed to be enjoyed as a couple.

When you become a new being, your life and entire being become new!

Old things, including lustful fantasies and sinful desires are not supposed to be entertained in your life anymore.

….

Sex is not a regular, typical, or very common discussion for most believers (especially in Christian gatherings) because our idea of sex is basically (mostly) flawed and negative.

This is because most Christians learn a lot of things about sex from the world. A lot of people know and understand sex from ungodly way…and from ungodly sources.

Instead of appreciating the fact that God created penis, vagina, and made these two compatible and complementary; instead of focusing on the fact that our bodies and their functions were designed by God, we get distracted and stick with the idea and thought of fornication, adultery, prostitution, sexual immorality, rape, porn, and every other negative situation and application of sexual intercourse.

Most times, we make it look like God is shy or not a big fan of sexual intercourse, when in fact, He made it for us – procreation and pleasure (for the married).

The devil’s taken advantage of this beautiful wonder created by God, because it is tridimensional (has to do with spirit, soul, and body) and causes extreme pleasure (makes people desire more).

He knows that nothing affects the entire being of a person like sex; so he doesn’t joke with sexual immorality.

Most people feel intimidated by the thought of how people would react and think of them, and get scared to discuss sexual intercourse boldly, confidently, and publicly.

We need to come to a place of understanding sex as holy and godly, given to us by God, God’s great plan for us, something we really need to know and understand, and something we share only with that special person (a spouse).

This means seeing sex from Christ’s angle, from God’s perspective – pleasing Him (worshiping Him) by keeping sex sacred.

The devil is very intentional about this subject; he is crazy about it, and it is ruining lives everyday!

Play your part! People are being misled all the time.

This is the reason most people feel uncomfortable talking about sex.

And, so many Christians approach sex, even as married people, the sinful way.
This is what I mean;
When a person wants to have sex “out of lust” – to bring their lustful fantasies to life (even with their partner), it is a sinful approach.
Also, when a person only thinks of himself/herself during sex (as far as they are satisfied, their partner should hustle for their own satisfaction…that mentality), that’s selfishness, which is sin; the dutiful, beautiful, and love-sharing during lovemaking is ignored.

I hope you understand this.

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If you are not practicing sexual purity, if you are not interested in sexual purity, then this is not for you.

Just so you know, naturally and ordinarily, kissing (just like sex) is not sin; it is not a bad thing at all. It is a way of expressing intimacy and a way of showing affection.

According to studies, it is believed that dopamine helps to reinforce enjoyable sensations and behaviours by connecting things that make you feel good with the urge to do them again. This connection is an important factor in the development of addiction.
Neurotransmitters, also called chemical transmitters or chemical messengers are what our body can’t function without. They carry chemical signals from one nerve cell to the next target. The transmitters that cause feelings of pleasure and euphoria are: oxytocin, endorphin, and serotonin.
So?
Kissing is very powerful that it triggers the brain to release chemicals like oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin, and these make a person have a “so good” feeling about it that they desire more.
Just so you know, oxytocin stirs up feelings of affection and attachment, and it causes bonding.

People have been asking this question so much that it is obvious that some of them really want an excuse to kiss; the urge and appetite is very strong!
Well, kissing is not sin to some people, but it is to others!
It is not counted as sin for married people, but it is to unmarried partners. This also depends on the type of kiss, though.

Kissing your children, parents, siblings, and loved ones (on the cheek) is a way of expressing affection and care, and it is very okay.

In some societies and settings, kissing of one’s hand is a form of greeting or reference/respect, etc.

In some royal settings, kissing of the King’s/Queen’s ring is a sign of obeisance.

Giving a peck (on either or both cheeks) is a form of greeting in some cultures/settings.
Apart from the aforementioned or any other form of “kissing” greeting or respect; anything kissing that is intimate is a sexual activity. If it is intimate; romantically or sexual, there must be a spark, a rush, even if there isn’t, it does not just happen out of the blue; there is always an intention to enjoy the pleasure that comes with the heat of the moment, maybe from one of the partners; and this is not good for someone practicing sexual purity (a Christian).

When it comes to romantic or sexual aspect, there is no kiss with “pure” intention, trust me. That pure intention is wrongly regarded. There is something the initiating partner wants.
They want to FEEL you, have a taste of you, wanting to experience the feeling, etc.
It is wrong!
Yes, you can hold hands and hug, those are not exactly sexual activities; we hug our siblings, friends, relatives, colleagues, and hold hands, remember? And this hardly leads (almost does not) to sexual arousal or stimulation, naturally…except for some people and in some contexts.

As weird as this may sound, there are some people who get turned on when they get very close to their love interest, sometimes when they start talking, sometimes when they hold hands; these happen to empaths most times because they feel people’s emotions and feelings, and because of this, they should learn to control their absorption.
Empaths feel and absorb energies around them more than normal people, I am saying this because I am one (an empath).
But, on a normal day, inability to control one’s self is a thing of concern, and an urgent solution is advisable.

This goes to determination and mind control – practice them as much and often as possible.. It is nothing sexually stimulating or intimate, and anyone who says it is is just being dramatic or ignorant.
Kissing between two romantic partners can cause sexual arousal, and if you are a true believer you should know that any form of weakness or temptation that could possibly lead to sin should be entirely avoided by all means necessary and possible.

Again, trust me, it is best to avoid it, “every sort of temptation”; it lowers protective walls and exposes one to sexual energy. You become vulnerable gradually. And whether you believe it or not, it would certainly lead to the temptation of wanting more, and you would get consumed when it comes fully at you.
The best and safest thing to do is avoid it totally! Have a boundary!

Actually, as Christians, it is wrong to make out at all before marriage, because it opens us up to sexual vulnerability, and this certainly leads to sexual sin; fornication.
Sexual intimacy is not right for unmarried Christians, it opens the way for sexual thoughts, feelings, and fantasies.

Kissing/making out produces feel good chemicals in a person, and makes the person crave for more. Imagine what it means to have this situation lead to sex (you can’t control yourself when it gets to a particular level), you become so aroused that your body naturally gives in. This is why as Christians we must commit our fleshy/carnal appetite to God, it is the problem we have in the world. When there is no control over your appetite for sex, making out, etc. you become vulnerable for the devil to easily manipulate into sexual sin.

It starts with a thought, an idea, then the feeling, and eventually the action. The feeling would be developed, the thought would be entertained, and the devil (he uses what God created to try manipulating people) uses that to his advantage against the people involved.
So, it is not advisable, it is wrong, and it is dangerous.

I hope you understand.

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Okay, let’s proceed!

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐞𝐱𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲?

Sexual Compatibility is the extent to which a couple shares and have similar sexual beliefs, desires, needs, preferences, turn-ons, or even level of sexual experience. A true Christian (a believer) is not concerned about “sexual compatibility”, not to the extent of wanting to sleep with everybody they can have sexual access before knowing who they want to be with. This is because they would not be sexually experienced prior to their wedding night, so there would not be any sexual expectations.
If “sexual compatibility” is your excuse to fornicate, then you are wrong!!

You have had sex with Amara, Itoro, Jennifer, Ife, and Keeysha who can go 15-25 minutes without getting tired, and you eventually get married to Ndiana who is not as sexually experienced like the other ladies, maybe she is even a virgin; you would surely be disturbed because she is not on the same “sexual level” as the other girls.
You have been with Ben, Ub, Emeka, Tolu, and Sam who give you multiple orgasms, guys who are “big” down there, guys who know how to “tear you apart”; when you eventually get married to Jerry who is a virgin, it becomes a problem!
The truth is, if you are not sexually active (if you are not fornicating), you’d never be worried about having a sexually compatible spouse. This is what I mean, if you have not had the experience of sex – mind-blowing, hot, great, or good sex, you would never know the kind of sex you think or feel you like or don’t like; you would not have a benchmark to compare your sex life in marriage with. There would be no unnecessary, unrealistic, or ridiculous sexual expectations from your partner going into marriage.

When you get married, there are things you’ll learn; you’ll have to adapt and adjust; you’ll have to communicate and understand; you’ll have to understand and practice beautiful and dutiful sex; an you’ll have to be unselfish on your matrimonial bed.
When talking about sex, I mean proper sex for married couples, it is more about your partner than yourself; i.e. each partner looks forward to satisfying their partner before thinking about themselves.

Sex has a lot to do with the mind, it is psychological before physical; it is spiritual, psychological, and physical.

Even as a married person, if you feel you are not enjoying sex enough, all you need to do is communicate with your partner and be completely honest, be entirely open to a new sex life and process of learning – both of you. I know some people do not like or believe in therapy, but when it seems you can’t handle this by yourselves and sometimes you’re psychologically disturbed, it is advisable for the two of you to meet a “Christian” (born again) sex therapist together if this challenge affects any or both of you already.
Each person has to make the other person know what they like and what they don’t like, what makes them satisfied and what would only sore them, irritate them, or hurt them.
Also, both partners should come to an agreement to try certain things out and be sexually creative and crazy to have fun. You should learn to channel your inner sexual energies to satisfy each other and yourself eventually.
When you are too desperate and anxious about only the sexual aspect of marital relationship, it becomes a concern.

If you have made up your mind already to only get married to a man who can last for 24hours (because that person is a machine or what?) or a man with a very big “P”, or with a man who can destroy your “womb” during sex (I’m sorry, but this is more of a female issue than a male issue), then your mind would definitely play it’s part in your sex life frustration; you would have anargosmia.
Remember, as a person thinks in his/her heart, so is s/he.

When you are in a relationship, you must always discuss this, talk about sex and your sexual experiences (if any), know what turns you on or off; this would help you to know what to expect.
Know what you would like to do and be mentally prepared to learn; this is always helpful.
This is the best you can do to determine your sexual compatibility as believers or honourable and responsible individuals.

Come to think of it, you can’t be testing every body sexually (with sex) to know who you’d be compatible with; apart from now crazily experimental it sounds, you’d only go for the sex and other areas would be seriously lacking. You would only get bored and tired in the end.
How many people would you sleep with to determine this? If you were sexually active before becoming genuinely born again, as a true believer, you’d become (you have become) a new creature, and old things must pass away because the Holy Spirit makes you a new person, giving you a new view of sex, a new perspective of sex, a new approach to sex, and a refined understanding of sex.

You automatically or gradually become ready, excited, and happy to learn to become “sexually compatible” with your partner. You both start exploring yourselves together, learning what you like, enjoy, and dislike in the bedroom. Imagine two people who have never had sex coming together as husband and wife, they would be eager to learn how to please each other sexually, they would be excited to learn.
This is the original plan of God for us, but the world decided to take things into their hands and make it look like we know better.

I pray you understand this.

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Like I always do, I allowed the phone to ring, it did; twice, as usual.

Then I checked my account balance afterwards (I didn’t want to hear stories that touch the heart, the body, and soul) to confirm I had enough airtime to call the “Love Of My Life”…okay, I had enough to last for an hour, at least!

The LOML (love of my life),

Her voice makes me smile uncontrollably, the sweetness of her voice reverberates through my head, and the warmth from her words fills my heart with joy.

You see? I’m in for a good time, I wouldn’t allow insufficient airtime kill my joy, nah!

By this time, I had to rush into the kitchen to grab myself lunch, and boom! My reminder came on! I had an online meeting with some clients.

Oh! Must it be now? I forgot I had a meeting sef, love wan burst my brain!!

Okay, let me just text my baby to tell her I would soon get busy (I had about 10 minutes to go), and she could come over later, if she was not too busy at her end; it was a weekend, afterall.

I was about typing the message, her text came in! Oh, does this girl know I’m about sending a text message to her?

Of course, it was sweet coincidence. What a perfect timing!!

“Good afternoon, baby! How are you? Are you sure you don’t have any meeting today? I’m coming over later. I have plenty gists for you. Have a great day! I love you!!”

Whoa!! What a motivation!

Three (3) minutes to my online meeting. Let’s do this!

The meeting went well; I had already gotten extra motivation (the call from Idara) prior to it…what did you expect?

4 HOURS LATER…

The door bell rang, behold, my baby is here!!

I cooked already, everyone knows I cook. So, babe just came to literally add the feminine spice to the house of an unmarried brother.

She loaded me with stories, like she earlier promised; in case you don’t know, she always keeps her word.

It was just 3 weeks to our wedding, and everything just dey excite us…married people can relate, they understand this feeling.

N/B: Idara and I never had sex before our wedding day, and we didn’t even kiss.

We hugged a lot, though..

But God gave us the grace to abstain from sex and every other form of sexual relation or anything that could cause sexual arousal.

I even asked her to always be on her cardigan or hoodie if possible whenever we are in the same room; you can’t come and make a son of man to be moved because of the things he sees before him.

In case you are wondering, she actually had a special room whenever occasion demands her presence, so we couldn’t even imagine sleeping on the same bed.

I would not want to make a daughter of Zion sin; a chorister, a prayer band member, a youth facilitator, a holy daughter of Zion.

No nau!

We prayerfully had to tread with care.

The Holy Spirit helped us!

“Baby, what did God really say about premarital sex?” She asked.

Me: “Ehm, I don’t understand. It isn’t right and you know.

Why now?”

Idara: “I know, baby; but, let’s discuss it, pleeeeeeeeeaaaaaaase.”

Me: “Okay, Ma’am! But, I am not in the mood for this Bible study.”

Idara (feeling like she won a debate): “That’s my baby! Let’s do this!” She brought out her iPad before I could say “Jack is a good boy!”

Me: “Hmm!”

Idara (smiling): “I’m waiting.”

So, for peace to reign, I dug out some Bible passages, and we discussed at length.

SUMMARY

Sex is beautiful, sex is sweet, sex was created by God, it is a gift from God to man (yes na, and woman).

Adam had the mandate to name animals, take care of the first habitat of the world, and was divinely hooked up by God to coexist with a woman, the first woman: his wife…a union designed and blessed by God!

Adam also had the divine authority to command, say things and they stand; remember, he was the first original copy of GOD’s IMAGE.

Man shall leave his father and mother, and become one with his wife…(Gen. 2:24).

Becoming one is spiritual; There is what is called SOUL TIES, and this is confirmed in the Bible.

I don’t want to write out too many Bible passages here, but, 1 Cor. 6:15: “(Even) when a man joins himself with a prostitute, he becomes ONE flesh with her…” confirms what Gen. 2:24 says.

Before we look at it biologically, note this;

You will not die if you sleep with a person you are not married to, even if it is a prostitute; BUT, like Paul said in 1 Cor. 6:12, and 10:23;

You are free to have sex anyhow, but, how far? Does it have an implication? Would it go well?

Let me take time to write these two passages out:

1. 1 Cor. 6:12;

“Everything is permissible (allowable and lawful) for me, but, not all things are helpful (good for me to do, expedient, and profitable when considered with other things…”

2. Paul later said in 1 Cor. 10:23

(I really love this one);

“All things are legitimate (permissible, and we are free to do anything we please), but, not all things are helpful (expedient, profitable, and wholesome).

All things are legitimate, but not all things are constructive (to character), and edifying (to SPIRITUAL LIFE).

You see?

Sex creates an emotional bond between the parties involved. Sex is tridimensional, it affects the body, soul, and spirit.

Let’s now go biological:

Dr. Daniel Amen, in his book, “Change Your Brain, Change Your Life”, he wrote: “Whenever a person is sexually involved with another person, neurochemical changes occur in both their brains that encourage limbic, emotional bonding.”

EXTRA: The limbic system is a set of structures in the brain that deal with emotions and memory.

So, do you want to ‘give it’ to that fine boy tonight?

Do you want to chop that babe when she comes over?

Rethink! Are you ready for the ripple effect?

Okay, you want to marry her. Oh! You want to marry him.

Wait small na, until you both get married. Then you can devour yourselves all you want.

Ehm, I didn’t say you should get married just because you want to have sex, no! That’s not my handwriting.

Just be attentive, let the Holy Spirit guide you.

When you get married, and you have nothing to worry about, you have him all to yourself, you have her all to yourself…that is when you would have THE SWEETEST SEX.

I think I have said enough.

Where was I?

Okay, that is how babe and I ended up having a Bible study session that I did not plan for.

But, it was worth the time.

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Dearly beloved,

I hope you are not trying to show people that you love God when you actually don’t. If you are pretending to man (to impressed us), the God you claim to love can never be deceived. Don’t forget that. I want you to take note of these few points:

1. You can’t be two faced with God, if this is you, then you are wasting time; He can never be deceived.
2. You can’t lie to yourself, you know where you’d go if you die now.
3. You can’t be living immorally (sexual or not), whether actively or passively and be claiming you love God. You don’t love Him! Yes, because you are okay with what He isn’t okay with; you are cool with what He doesn’t like.
4. You are not different from the people of the world at all when you do what they do; their lifestyle, slangs, swear words, and exclamations, behaviours, dressing, etc.

For a moment, forget about people watching you. Forget about your biological and extended families (I know people who’d be recipients of best in pretending and disguising awards – if such awards existed), online and offline friends, acquaintances, followers, fans, and colleagues. Please, check and recheck your life.

God loves you, He wants you to have a life in Him because He truly cares for you.
I pray for you today, may the Lord reveal Himself to you. When you get into a relationship with Him, your life starts anew. Jesus loves you.
He does not break hearts; when you become intimate with Him, He fixes, mends, and heals broken hearts, lives, and souls.
Age doesn’t matter at all. Try Him today, try Him now. Like I always say, and like He has always proven to be; He is always faithful.

I hope you understand.

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