When going into a relationship, it is normal and ideal to have a picture of the kind of person you want to be with. but, also, there is a certain kind of person you really should avoid. Do not push or try to be with a person who is:
1. Confused.
2. Undecided.
3. “Not ready” for a relationship.
4. Not giving you the right feeling/vibe.
5. Avoiding conversations about being in a relationship with you.
6. Obviously, apparently, seemingly, or clearly not interested in you.
1. Confused.
Someone who tells you, or proves to you, or shows that they are confused is not a good fit for a healthy relationship. The person has to know and understand what they want before being worthy of being in a relationship.
2. Undecided.
If a person tells you that they are yet to decide on whether or not to be with you, it means one or all of these three things:
* They don’t want to be with you.
* They don’t want to tell you they are not interested, because they don’t want to hurt you.
* They don’t love you that way (romantically).
* They have a better alternative.
When this is the case, trying to make them interested in you, trying to convince them to be with you, trying to make them change their mind is wrong; it is a rough play.
3. “Not ready” for a relationship.
When anybody tells you this, it simply means you are just not the one; they are straight up not interested in having a romantic relationship with you. You are not the one, sir/ma’am. People don’t really get “ready” to be in a relationship per se, they either like you enough to be expecting (they want) to be in a relationship with you or want you enough that they start giving you green light because they are really interested.
4. Not giving you the right feeling/vibe.
In life, there are times you really need to follow your gut feeling, your intuition.
You would know when things don’t go as they should, but if you have doubts, ask for clarity. Don’t assume…but you would always know. It feels off, something seems to be missing, you know you are not getting that vibe, that energy is undetectable; the energy is not felt.
No effort, no reciprocity. That is your cue! Avoid this kind of person!!
5. Avoiding conversations about being in a relationship with you.
When a person obviously avoids conversations about being in a relationship with you; when they always deflect or change the topic whenever it comes up; when they constantly avoid the topic, you need to rest; it is a red flag!
6. Obviously, apparently, seemingly, or clearly not interested in you.
This is another kind of person you should avoid. You know when a person is not interested in you, you know when a person doesn’t see you as a potential partner or partner even in a thousand years. You’d know when a person sees you as a “sister” or “brother”, “best friend” or someone always available for them to talk to, but not someone they want or imagine any romantic relationship with. But, if you feel you are just paranoid or tripping; if you think you are overthinking it, then you should ask them and know where you stand.
If you find yourself in this situation (one of the aforenamed), you can confront the person if you want (for clarification), but such relationship seldom work out.
You can’t be in a healthy relationship with someone who doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, and the aforementioned are glaring signs to look out for.
I really hope you understand this.