Sexual compatibility; what is sexual compatibility? Before we address this, there is what I want you know.
This is not for everybody; it is only for believers (who want/need to understand sexual compatibility). There is no need to read this if you are not a believer, you would probably not understand this perspective.

Okay, let’s proceed!

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐞𝐱𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲?

Sexual Compatibility is the extent to which a couple shares and have similar sexual beliefs, desires, needs, preferences, turn-ons, or even level of sexual experience. A true Christian (a believer) is not concerned about “sexual compatibility”, not to the extent of wanting to sleep with everybody they can have sexual access before knowing who they want to be with. This is because they would not be sexually experienced prior to their wedding night, so there would not be any sexual expectations.
If “sexual compatibility” is your excuse to fornicate, then you are wrong!!

You have had sex with Amara, Itoro, Jennifer, Ife, and Keeysha who can go 15-25 minutes without getting tired, and you eventually get married to Ndiana who is not as sexually experienced like the other ladies, maybe she is even a virgin; you would surely be disturbed because she is not on the same “sexual level” as the other girls.
You have been with Ben, Ub, Emeka, Tolu, and Sam who give you multiple orgasms, guys who are “big” down there, guys who know how to “tear you apart”; when you eventually get married to Jerry who is a virgin, it becomes a problem!
The truth is, if you are not sexually active (if you are not fornicating), you’d never be worried about having a sexually compatible spouse. This is what I mean, if you have not had the experience of sex – mind-blowing, hot, great, or good sex, you would never know the kind of sex you think or feel you like or don’t like; you would not have a benchmark to compare your sex life in marriage with. There would be no unnecessary, unrealistic, or ridiculous sexual expectations from your partner going into marriage.

When you get married, there are things you’ll learn; you’ll have to adapt and adjust; you’ll have to communicate and understand; you’ll have to understand and practice beautiful and dutiful sex; an you’ll have to be unselfish on your matrimonial bed.
When talking about sex, I mean proper sex for married couples, it is more about your partner than yourself; i.e. each partner looks forward to satisfying their partner before thinking about themselves.

Sex has a lot to do with the mind, it is psychological before physical; it is spiritual, psychological, and physical.

Even as a married person, if you feel you are not enjoying sex enough, all you need to do is communicate with your partner and be completely honest, be entirely open to a new sex life and process of learning – both of you. I know some people do not like or believe in therapy, but when it seems you can’t handle this by yourselves and sometimes you’re psychologically disturbed, it is advisable for the two of you to meet a “Christian” (born again) sex therapist together if this challenge affects any or both of you already.
Each person has to make the other person know what they like and what they don’t like, what makes them satisfied and what would only sore them, irritate them, or hurt them.
Also, both partners should come to an agreement to try certain things out and be sexually creative and crazy to have fun. You should learn to channel your inner sexual energies to satisfy each other and yourself eventually.
When you are too desperate and anxious about only the sexual aspect of marital relationship, it becomes a concern.

If you have made up your mind already to only get married to a man who can last for 24hours (because that person is a machine or what?) or a man with a very big “P”, or with a man who can destroy your “womb” during sex (I’m sorry, but this is more of a female issue than a male issue), then your mind would definitely play it’s part in your sex life frustration; you would have anargosmia.
Remember, as a person thinks in his/her heart, so is s/he.

When you are in a relationship, you must always discuss this, talk about sex and your sexual experiences (if any), know what turns you on or off; this would help you to know what to expect.
Know what you would like to do and be mentally prepared to learn; this is always helpful.
This is the best you can do to determine your sexual compatibility as believers or honourable and responsible individuals.

Come to think of it, you can’t be testing every body sexually (with sex) to know who you’d be compatible with; apart from now crazily experimental it sounds, you’d only go for the sex and other areas would be seriously lacking. You would only get bored and tired in the end.
How many people would you sleep with to determine this? If you were sexually active before becoming genuinely born again, as a true believer, you’d become (you have become) a new creature, and old things must pass away because the Holy Spirit makes you a new person, giving you a new view of sex, a new perspective of sex, a new approach to sex, and a refined understanding of sex.

You automatically or gradually become ready, excited, and happy to learn to become “sexually compatible” with your partner. You both start exploring yourselves together, learning what you like, enjoy, and dislike in the bedroom. Imagine two people who have never had sex coming together as husband and wife, they would be eager to learn how to please each other sexually, they would be excited to learn.
This is the original plan of God for us, but the world decided to take things into their hands and make it look like we know better.

I pray you understand this.