Is Romantic Relationship advisable for Christians?

First of all, understand the meaning of “romantic”.

Romantic and sexual are two different things, please check them out.

Romantic is really about gestures, the most common ones: buying flowers for someone you love, getting them birthday gifts, etc.

Being in a relationship that is defined to lead to marriage is a romantic relationship, and as a believer, it should not be a ticket, pass, or qualification for being sexually intimate.

Of course, you’d be emotionally intimate, that is because you can’t reach this level without being emotionally attached to each other…and that is intimacy (not sexual).

Sexual relationship has to do with sex and everything related to sex and causing sexual arousal, tension, or stimulation. Doing things that generate sexual energy.

When a man proposes to a woman, i.e. before he asks her to be his wife, what type of relationship is that already?

A romantic relationship!

They were in a romantic relationship before it got to that.

In case you didn’t know, a man can’t ask a woman to marry him if they have never been in a romantic relationship. Being romantic comes in various forms; friends can be very romantic to each other even when there is nothing extra going on between them.

People wrongly use sexual and romantic interchangeably, and it is not right.

Just like it’s right to say romance can be a verb (act) or a noun (situation/THING going on between two persons).

I will use this example again, a young pastor who introduces his wife-to-be to his people is in a romantic relationship with her, that doesn’t mean they are in a sexual relationship.

Courting is more advanced and deeper than dating, and people get romantic in courtship, so that is a romantic relationship.

Religious settings may not call it this way, but that is what it is.

Most religious views may likely view romantic as not okay, but that is wrong. It is a flawed understanding.

These can be said to be romantic (expressions of love):

* Calling to check on someone you like from time to time.

* Buying gifts and flowers for a person you love is romantic.

* Taking a person out for movie night or even family dinner date is romantic.

* Buying courses and paying for seminars for a person you are interested in, is romantic.

I can go on.

They are only allowed to be in a romantic and sexual relationship when they perform all the marital rites, exchange matrimonial vows, and are blessed to go into marriage.

As Christians, we are not allowed or supposed to be in a sexual relationship with a person we are not married to.

It is fornication, it is adultery, it is a sin.

I hope you understand.